This blog post by Mary Katherine May.
Rick & Mary May operate the webstore QualityMusicandBooks.com.
I have heard many stories of verbal bullying from adult women over the years. It happens to both men and women in the workplace, at home, and in the church.
The result can be even more emotionally devastating if it also happened in childhood because self esteem is not there to understand that there is no reason to feel bad, worthless.
You may not realize what is happening or be able to define what is wrong at the moment other than knowing something isn't right. You feel ishy. If you do realize it and say something, it doesn't mean you'll be seen as the victim, especially and surprising if it happens in a church.
No one ever wants to believe a pastor, elder or Christian leader would use cruel words to maintain or regain undeserved power and authority. In fact, at the time it's going on the abuser may even intensify his/her attack.
If your voice is not heard or discounted you should get out. Leave. You are worth it.
Verbal abusers, emotional bullies are the ones who are shameful, not you. Keep telling yourself that until you believe it. Take your power back, then forgive the abuser and you will fly free.
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